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Friday, February 6, 2009

Step it Up, Yo!

“Hey, how’s it going? I couldn’t help but notice you from across the classroom. I was wondering if your name was Visa because you’re everywhere I wanna be.”

That’s how it would go down where I’m from, but not in Rexburg. Around here, if I dare look at a guy longer than 3 seconds, he immediately breaks the eye contact and nervously starts skimming through a book. At first, I thought it might just be the type of guys that go to this university.

I’ve also thought about the possibility that there might just be something wrong with me, but I can’t even fathom that idea. I mean, if you knew me, you would know that is absolutely not the case.

I came here under the impression that guys are pretty much the same anywhere. That they approach you the same, use the same pick up lines, and so on. But that’s definitely not what I found. I found myself in a world full of unsure and shy men. Right? Am I completely making this up?

I know I am not the only girl here that feels this way because I’ve actually done a little independent survey and my studies show that getting a guy to ask you out is somewhat challenging in Rexburg. However, I’ve never had to overcome this obstacle in life before, so this gives me a little chuckle.

Back in South Carolina, I could simply be grocery shopping, and if I caught a guy’s attention, he would let me know. Whether it be “yo, shawty, lemme get them digits” or “Do your eyes hurt?...because they’re killing me, darling”, I would at least be approached. Hey, I had options. Do you?

That is my point. I think guys here are very much conservative, even the ones who say they are rebels, they aren’t. In a town where approximately 2 people get engaged per hour(I totally made that up, but I bet I am pretty accurate), how are these people getting to the point of marriage if the men are not stepping up their game?

And if you are reading this thinking I am bitter, you are wrong. I just want to know what is so embarrassing about going up to a girl, asking her out and then not being weird about it. I’ll even go out on a limb and speak up for most females on campus and say, men, it is okay to approach us. We do not expect rings on the first date, well, the second date might be a different story, but…only kidding.

I miss the days of “excuse me, can I talk to you for a minute?” I’ve gone on dates in Rexburg but they always end up really bizarre because they usually started out that way. I just want everyone to know there is no mold you have to fill just because you’re in the LDS dating scene when it comes to asking girls out.

Be brave. Take a deep breath. Be silly. Walk up to that cute girl you passed by the Hart and let her know that her “ponytail is ridiculous” and that you want to “holla”. If she turns around and says “holla back” then you have succeeded. Mission accomplished.

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